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Posted by Debbie/NH on 9/18/2007, 2:36 pm, in reply to "loss of husband" I am lucky that I worked full time although my husband was the one who disabeled the social security coming in helped and now that it is gone. Things are tighter.
Hello Betty,
I am so very sorry for your loss. It's a terrible thing to have to go through such grief and pain after losing your husbandl. I thought that raw pain would never ever go away but somehow it does. You will always feel some pain but nothing like you do in the very beginning when it feels as though your heart and soul were ripped out of your very body without any anthesia to help dull the pain.
It has now been 2 years for me. The days do come and go now unlike in the beginning when each day just crawled by.
I am one of those who did journaling. Also if your husband was involved with hospice. They should offer you and your son's grief counseling or a grief class. I recommend you take it. But you reallly should take it only after 6 months when you are more able to sit and deal with each emotion and homework assignment they give.
My son and I both took it. he was only 9 years old when God called our Richard/Dad home.
We definitely benefitted from the class. We were in separtate ones due to age and relationship and he felt comfortable to talk and let out his anger without me being there.
How old are your son's? They may qualify for social security under your husband's name.
I wish I knew some magic words to help you but all I can say is take it little by little each day. You are not crazy, losing it or insane.. It's grieving and it's the worst thing to go through. I hope you have friends and family to help you if not people on here are fantastic.
Judith is a wonderful person and reaches out in such a beautiful way.. What a special person she is and how lucky we all are to have her here with us during all our times of grief
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