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Posted by Debbie/NH on 10/3/2007, 3:57 pm, in reply to "Birthday" That first birthday that he wasn't here my son and I went out for supper. Just a local diner but we sat and talked about him and in the car on the way home we sad a very teary eyed sad version of Happy Birthday to him. I picked up 2 cupcakes and we sat in front of his picture and said well we eat the calories you get to enjoy watching us. And that it doesn't seem fair that he can see up but we can't see him. My son was 9 years old at the time. You will also notice that you will get really irritated and short fused when those days come.
Jay,
Those days are extremely hard. My husband has been gone 2 years now and the pain has lessened but the loss has not. I miss him all day everyday
Celebrating him to us just seemed that way to go.
I think if we tried to ignore the day it would have hurt so much more but trying to incorporate things he liked to do made sense to both of us.
I would say try to find family or friends or anyone that you can to help you through this.
Plan your day to get through it. Because there isn't a getting around it.
Same way I got thru the holidays.. I made plans to get us through it.
My now 12 year old reminds me as it gets closer to his days to take it easy Mom and we'll find our way through it.
When is his birthday?
Feel free to respond. On this site we are all here for the same purpose to deal with a painful loss and we are all here for one another
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