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Posted by Sheryl on 10/12/2007, 8:55 pm, in reply to "dealing with death" I am sorry for the loss of your parent. My husband was almost the same age as your dad. My youngest child is 15 years old. He is very quiet and I worry about him and his grieving. When his marching band is over, I plan on attending a grieving through the holidays workshop in early November. I think this might open the door for us to all have a little support group time or counseling. Have you tried a group? Some churches or centers offer them for free. I think a lot of the healing is just going to take a long, long time. I am feeling a full range of emotions and I also had to switch jobs the week my husband died for health insurance reasons. Loosing a parent must generate so many feelings that are difficult. My grandmother and her sister lost their mother to cancer when they were 14 and 18 years old. This was back in the 1930's (my grandma is now 89 years old). When my great-aunt was still living, they still used to have bitter feelings about their mother's death and unresolved feelings. Most of it was over a step-mother who they both disliked very much. My grandmother seemed to have some on-going problems with bouts of depression during my mother's childhood. She would say things to her, such as, I'll see you in the morning if I am still alive. Something very similar to that - it always scared my mom. It seemed like her grieving never got her to a healthy place. I don't want my children to have similar problems and I am trying to take steps to do what ever I can do to help them (even if it seems like they don't need it). There are also lots of book on grieving and maybe when you have time you could look at some of them. Wishing you peace and comfort. Sheryl
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