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Posted by Judith ((((((hugs))))) for you. I am truly sorry for your loss, and the life-changes you've had to make during a very stressful time of your life. I can only share with you what I have noticed since I've been grieving. Physically, you do get ill. I have abdominal problems that started the second week into my grief, and its because I wasn't able to sleep (really bad insomnia). I caught everything my patients in the ICU came in with, pneumonia, flu, GI problems, you name it, I was calling in waaay too often. (thought my job would be on the line)... fortunately I had a very understanding boss, and we cut back my hours, so that I could actually spend time healing. My mother in law is very ill. Her diabetes is out of control and she has very bad anxieties and panic attacks... its been 17 months since Roy died and they moved 4 months after he passed, she still hasn't dealt with her grief. She moved way too soon. She hates the house, and can't stand to live in it. So she panics. I do not know where you work, but may I ask, if they have some sort of employee assistance program? this might be a place to start. Or if there is a social work program, or outreach program? Sometimes cancer support groups can be a good source of ideas for help. All I know, is right now, the body is only capable of handling so much before it starts to fall apart, and it sounds to me, like your are almost at your breaking point. There are a few people who moved and started new jobs after their loss, and they seem to have done okay, but you might want to hook up with them for better insight. Sheryl, please feel my arms around you, and my shoulder for you to just let go. I hope I didn't confuse you further with my 'help'. I will keep you in my heart and prayers that your beloved husband comes to you with some words of wisdom on what to do/where to go next. Lovingly,
on 10/23/2007, 12:18 pm, in reply to "leaving my job as sole supporter or sticking it out "
Sweet Sheryl,
Judith
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