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Posted by Debbie/NH on 10/30/2007, 10:49 am, in reply to "Re: Please tell me it gets better" I cannot even begin to relate to the horrible things that you have had to deal with. Why some of us are called to endure the most intense trials I will never know. The answer for that will come when our day comes to pass over. You have such an overwhelming grief experience to come through. Reading your post some of the things that pop into my mind are. Thank God for those grandbabies to keep you going. You didn't mention if you have a good relationship with their mom. Also is she the wife that didn't call the ambulance? As hard as this is if she is that parent you are going to have to hang in there to keep a relationship going for the sake of those precious babies. You mentioned that you were taking medication for depression. What other things have you tried to do to manage the pain and grief you are experiencing? As far as your daughter-in-law goes, it's unfortunately something you will never know that IF the ambulance was called in time or IF you were called to help would it have saved him. I have lived that moment for quite some time on my own beloved husband. I knew he didn't feel well but not in my wildest dreams did I think he was dying. I thought he was getting the flu. I am entering into a dark period for myself right now. October of different years I lost my dad and my brother-in-law(who was also my first crush and really great friend) to be follwed up by my husband's birthday and of course the holidays.
Connie,
When my son and I lost his dad/my husband, I sought out comfort in a group setting, as well as a grief therapist.
It does not matter how long ago the deaths were, they are very real to you and happening in your heart all the time.
I also began a grief journal. This particular one is called Angel Catcher. It leads you through your pain by asking questions that you need to answer.
Many months later sitting in church one day it came to me. No matter what I did his date with God was etched in stone. Even if I had called for help that destiny was not in my hands.
Thinking more on that months later, I believe that if that was something I was suppose to do the Angels would have told me to do that.
Even is she did not call, I think you would have been woken up or tapped to be there.
I'm sure this isn't of much help to you but I want you to know you are among friends here. No matter when the loss was or what the the loss was to you. Grief binds us all together and that is the road we were put on to hold each other up and give a "virtual" hug when needed.
This year I lost my very good friend/aunt and not 2 months later lost a very close cousin.
Unfortunately in my sons young 12 years of life he has been to way too many funerals but I show him my hurt and pain to let him know I want him to show me his.
Stay strong.. take it one hour at a time if you have to. I am here if you need a friend
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