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Posted by Oz Sue on 10/31/2007, 10:10 pm, in reply to "no one seems to understand"
Hi Jonathan
No body can understand - only YOU with your loss! Only you will know what your partner meant to you, all the good times, the memories, the sharing and caring and love you have and had.... This is why grieving in your own way is important - forget 'the brave face' - it's your face of loss and caring that people will be seeing now and in their own way, small ways sometimes, they can give a smile when needed or a touch when the times get lonely! Grieve and drink, throw yourself around and scream if you must - let out the emotions and then and only then can your body start to heal - first the pain gets slightly less over time and the memories can be brought out at special times and in your own way. Then even the pain in your physical body lessens, and you may even smile again. Please do not fight your emotions - it's only like putting a lid on a steaming pot - it is more likely to 'explode'. So feel your loss and review and enjoy your memories - and (if you choose) YES life does go on - and in time - it even gets better! Look at life in your own valued way now and remember that others are suffering in different ways too - maybe YOUR smile may cheer up someone elses day - without you ever knowing it! This can be your gift to others with what you are feeling right now! In Love and Light - Sue x
p.s. From one who knows what it is like.....xx
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