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Posted by Judith on 11/13/2007, 4:04 am, in reply to "It still hurts..."
Dear Lauren,
First a very big hug. To just hold you tight and offer my shoulder to cry on. You are at a very difficult time of your life, when a father's advice would just be so nice to have, and you don't have it.
Its alright to be feeling like your world is falling apart, because it is tormentous moment; the sorrow, the missing, the longing, the I wish I had, and the IFs.....
Lauren, I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I lost my husband, it hasn't yet been 2 years, and I miss him so much, but I can't imagine, I don't want to imagine, how hard it would be if I lost my father right now. So, just let me hold you, and I offer you my shoulder.
I was given the advice of writing things down in a journal. You can talk to your father in those letters, or you can vent, or you can just write down what is going on, that you wish he were still with you to help you right now. Its okay to feel as you do. (There is no limit on how long grief should be). Ask anyone here, they will tell you the same, its a lifetime of grieving.
Teenage years are so difficult. Leaving a childhood and friends to go off to college, or to just try fitting in. Trying to find yourself as a young adult, wonderful surprises, and bad choices, make it seem like a hurdle you can't get over. Lauren, just ask your dad to help you over these hurdles. He may not be physically there for you, but he is always with you in your heart, and from Heaven, he can help you through along with God, and God's angels.
We are all here, struggling one day at a time. Talking about what we try to do to cope, and sharing wonderful memories of our lost ones helps to pass the loneliness away.
I will keep you and your father in my prayers, Lauren, and may God's angels help you to find comfort in your heart.
Lovingly,
Judith
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