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Posted by Debbie/NH on 12/27/2007, 2:35 pm, in reply to "I'm losing him..."
Luis, I am so very sorry for you with all that is going on. How scary and sad for you at the same time. I can relate to what you are going through. I watched my husband suffer for nearly 9 years and you feel so utterly helpless.
Many days I kept feeling as though I were mourning him before he left. That is called anticipatory grief. I never even knew about it till after. I thought I was the worst person in the world.
It is so very hard to be strong but you do need to try. I would recommend asking him if you can if has any special requests.. Things he would like to do now or watch or write or read or say.
Spend as much time together as you can but try not to have it be in just a caretaker mode.
If you are a beliver praying does help alot. I found myself praying alot for the strength to help Richard.
It's been 2 1/2 years since he left me and I think of him everyday. It's now me and our son that is left. But we honor his memory as much as possible.
I found journal writing to be a good spot to let out many emotions. After he passed I started writing letters to him that also helped me.
I wish you great strenght of heart and mind to help your loved one at this time.
All our welcome here. We have all been in different places and our loved ones left us in different ways but we are all here to listen and give you a shoulder and ear to lean on.
Be strong and let him know how much you love him.
God Bless You during this time of trial
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