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Posted by Judith on 1/27/2008, 10:27 am, in reply to "Re: help/suggestions/anything"
Dearest Jay,
I must apologize to you, I never even saw your messages... they seemed to have gotten lost in the long list of those who have asked for help.
Truly, I am sorry for not being here to allow you to talk about your sweet darling, your beloved wife.
I am hoping that Thanksgiving and Christmas were not tooo harsh for you and your son. It sounds like your son has been very brave and that you have been trying very hard to put one foot in front of the other.
Jay, there are no words to express the hurt, pain, and agony we go through when we lose the person we were most close to.
Even after almost 2 years, I still have days when I cry for no reason. A thought about my husband comes to mind, and I just start crying. I know that most men have alot of trouble showing emotions because 'its not cool' or 'I need to be the man'.. but you know what? you have to let it out.. maybe not cry, but by doing something constructive to let your emotions flow.
Marvin had a very hard time after his spouse passed, but he realised that drunkedness was not the answer. Doing special things with your son, honouring the beautiful person you loved, might help in this area.
If I may ask, what was your love's name? If you are ready, how did she pass? It is in sharing your beautiful story that the heart can mend. How did you meet? What was so wonderful about her?
We have sooo many beautiful stories on this site, heart-warming, and just wonderful the love these other angels have shared.
I hope this message finds you, as I extend my hand out to reach to help you. I hold my arms out to hug you, and I lend my heart to pray that your suffering is eased,
Lovingly,
Judith
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