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Posted by Debbie/NH on 11/10/2008, 11:28 am, in reply to "loss of my best friend"
Please don't EVER consider suicide the answer. It's not. I have a very good friend who's husband commited suicide and there was not warning, no hints that he was thinking in that way. Both her and her two daughters are devasted but they are bravely trying to move forward. I myself have not had that happen to me. I lost my husband to a natural death that was very unexpected and I do know what it's like to lose someone that you loved so much. It is heartwrenching.
I realize that you may not want to seek the help of a grief counselor but that is one suggestion that I have. Even if it's not something you would think about doing righ now you can always come back to it anytime.
One thing I did do that helped and my friend who;s husband was the one who committed suicide did also was to start a grief journal. Expressing all your thoughts both good and bad. If you are angry at that person it's ok to express it that way. I was furious at my husband also.. I must have written so many pages dealing with that anger but you know that is a step in grief healing. There are many steps you will go through and your feelings as you can see are all over the place but way down the road your feelings will calm down. Not soon though and you will never truly be over the loss of your friend but you will learn to cope with it better and it will help you to live your live in a way you never knew. Have faith that God is now taking care of your friend. He is holding onto your friend, who very likely misses all of you also.
Please consider grief therapy for your self and any other friends who have been so deeply moved by this very tragic event.
I wish I had answers for you but unfortunately I do not but I will say a pray for all of you that you will remember your friend in a much better way after the shock and total pain have settled. I am so very sorry for your loss.
I am so glad you reached out to those of us on here. Please feel free to reach out any time- we are all unfortunately here from loss but we can help each other through the pain.
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