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Posted by Debbie/NH on 3/12/2009, 8:14 am, in reply to "crushed"
John,
I am so sorry to tell you that it's going to be a long while before it gets better. I just reached the four year mark of the loss of my husband.
You will unfortunately have many dark days ahead and feel as if you can't survive. I know I felt that same horrible feeling. But you will make it through very slowly.
Give yourself time to grieve. Don't think you can rush through this and if anyone says to you why are you still crying? Tell them to pound sand! You have suffered an very painful loss of your beloved wife. It's not like you lost a dollar or a piece of candy. You lost your loving spouse and there is no fast and clearcut way to handle that than slowly and painfully.
Be good to yourself. I realize you may not be sleeping but eventually you will. I hope you have good family and friends to assist you. If not or even if you do. Come here you are among those who totally get it and understand. Grief and Loss are painful, hard and extremely sad feelings and emotions to deal with. My goodness your entire life has changed, and that my friend you don't get over fast or easy. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need to.
I met many great friends on this site, who get it and understand the grief.
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