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Posted by Debbie/NH
on 4/17/2009, 12:57 pm, in reply to "Mom passed in February "
Hello Debbie,
First let me tell you that I am so very sorry for your loss. I have not lost my mom but I have lost my dad and my husband. Getting through this is about all we can do but it takes lots and lots of time and energy.
I would say reading your message that not only are you mourning the loss of a parent you are mourning the loss of a close friend(your mom).
Grief is very hard to deal with. Some days it feels as though you can barely get out of bed and get dressed. You find that you want to lash out at people and have little patience. Plus there is a hole inside of you miles wide and long.
This is all very normal. Mourning and grieving is not an exact science. You go thru many stages and moods.
What I found was writing down my moods or writing letters to the person that has passed in a journal is very theraputic. In that journal you can tell them all the things that you want/need to.
Please don't feel as if you should be able to rush right through this loss and go on. You have lost a parent/friend and the change is profound.
You do need to try to do things again. How old are you children?
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