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Posted by ANN on 6/7/2009, 12:15 pm, in reply to "Re: Devastated by husband's death"
JULIE DON'T BLAME YOURSELF . I KNOW THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE BUT I FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT HOSPICE. THEY ARE GREAT TO CERTAIN EXTENT LIKE PROVIDING AN ELECTRIC WHEELCHAIR SO MY HUSBAND COULD GET AROUND OUR COMPLEX AND GO TO OUR BEACH AND PARK AND HAVE SOME INDEPENDENCE AND PROVIDING OXYGEN FOR HIM. AFTER HE HAD TO GO BACK TO HOSPITAL AGAIN THOUGH AND WAS DYING FROM COPD (NOT CANCER OR DIALYSIS WHICH WAS THE ORIGINAL PROBLEM) HE WANTED TO GO HOME SO THE DR'S TOOK HIM OFF THE VENTILATOR AND THANK GOD HE WAS ABLE TO BE HOME WITH HIS DOG, MAGGIE, FOR 16 HOURS BEFORE HE PASSED AWAY. DURING THAT TIME HOSPICE WAS THERE GIVING HIM MORPHINE AND ADAVAN WHICH I FEEL EUTHENIZED AND CAUSED AN EARLIER DEATH. I KNOW HE WOULD NEVER HAVE CAME OUT OF THE BREATHING PROBLEMS AND BEEN ABLE TO BREATH ON HIS OWN BUT I ALSO FEEL THEY COULD HAVE HAD EQUIPMENT THERE TO HELP HIM BREATH EASIER AND LET HIM LIVE FOR A WHILE LONGER. THANK GOD HE NEVER WAS IN ANY PAIN EXCEPT STRUGGLING FOR BREATH TO BREATH. I FEEL HOSPICE COULD HAVE HELPED BUT THEY ARE FOR END OF LIFE HELP.... NOT CONTINUING CARE. I CAN'T SAY THAT YOU DIDN'T DO THE RIGHT THING...I'M NOT SURE I WOULD EVER USE HOSPICE FOR END OF LIFE AGAIN MYSELF. MAYBE YOUR HUSBAND DIDN'T WANT YOU TO SEE HIM PASS AWAY. SOMETIMES THAT CAN BE A BLESSING. THE LAST BREATH THEY TAKE WILL STAY IN YOUR MEMORY FOREVER AND THAT IS A TERRIBLE THING. I STIL REMEMBER MY PARENTS FORM 14 AND 8 YEARS AGO.NOT SOMETHING I WANT TO REMEMBER EITHER. GOD BLESS YOU AND TRY TO STAY STRONG AND KKNOW YOU DID YOUR BEST. GOD BLESS YOU, ANN
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