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Posted by Debbie/NH on 6/11/2009, 12:44 pm, in reply to "losing my great grandma"
Hi Suzie,
You didn't say how old you are but facing a major loss in your life is horrible at any age.
What you are feeling is very normal. I lost my husband over 3 years ago and I went through all the things you are describing. This is what grief and grieving is like. It's a painful and lonely experience to go through. There were so many days that I didn't think I could function anymore. Letting him go was the hardest thing I ever did in my life to date. Unfortunately, you are going through this painful experience lossing your great grandmother. I have cried faithfully every night for more than 2 years missing him but eventually I was all cried out and now I still cry but not all the time anymore. Missing someone you love will always be with you some days it will be intense pain and others it will be a pain you can handle. I started reading books about grief to help me know that what I was feeling was very normal even though I felt as far from normal as I could feel. That's what losing someone you love is like. You feel as if a piece of your heart was cut away from you. I found that listening so songs about loss also helped in their own way.
I wish I could give you a magic answer to take away all your pain but there's no such thing you just have to try a little every day. And you can talk to her -I'm sure she will listen in her own way.
If you have faith say your prayers for her and ask God to help heal your wounded heart. I know I did and it does help but healing does take time.
A big heartfelt hug to you and I am so sorry for your loss.
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