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Posted by Debbie/NH
on 10/19/2009, 4:02 pm, in reply to "Missing my Husband so badly "
Brandy, My heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. I have been in your place. In spite of the fact it's been 4 year now I still remember the pain, emotional whirlwind of grief.
My husband and I were married for 18 years also. We had just celebrated our anniversary the week before he passed very unexpectedly.
I was left to raise our only child who was 9 at the time. Believe me when I tell you there are no magic words of phrases that are going to take that pain away. It's going to take prayer, time, grief therapy and what also helped me was grief journaling.
I took my son and myself to grief therapy. It did help but not right away. It is one of the hardest things to get through adn you feel so all alone and in constant pain.
I guess the thing I learned from all of this if the grief of losing him was easy and pain free. He would not have mattered to me as much as he did.
I am glad that you work because that will also be a good outlet for you to break some of the intense pain that you are in.
I read some really great books about grief if you would like the names of them I would be happy to supply you with them. Send me your e-mail address.
I will do all I can to help you if you need someone to listen to or a friend to dump on. Many others who came here did that for me also and it does help.
How are you sleeping, eating? Those are important things in your recovery process. But please understand and bear in mind recovery does not mean you have forgotten or stopped loving your husband so do not feel guilty if you smile or laugh once in awhile it's ok.
Big hugs to you.
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