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Posted by Whes
on 12/25/2005, 4:32 pm
My ex fiancee recently began seeing another ex-boyfriend. Her and I had been broken up for 3 years, but we still saw each other because we weren't meeting any new people and I guess things were just convienient. We had become good friends, better then when we were still a couple. But she started seeing him again 4 months ago and I began to feel uncomfortable, but I was able to ignore it for awhile. Then she really started to talk all about him and I was feeling angry and jealous. I didn't know why I was feeling this way for someone I really wasn't with anymore. But I realized that in my heart I don't think I truly broke up with her, although she had with me 3 years ago. There was really no cool-off period after we broke up, so I guess I never really separated my feelings from her. I really didn't want her to move on. I became very inquisitive with what was going on, wanting to know if she was replacing me with another guy; pushing me aside. Then I decided that I probably shouldn't be as "close" to her as I had been in case she decided to be "close" to him. I didn't want her to tell me "Hey, by the way..." the next time I was with her. But in the month since I was last with her, she began stepping things up with him. We had agreed a long time ago that when one of us moved on, that we would end what we were doing with each other, and that included anything either of us considered arousing. But it took her awhile to finally admit to me she moved on. But days before she did, she made suggestions about us still having some "sharing" with each other. She was about to put me through something I was not prepared to do, it was a violation of our agreement. I am seriously considering cutting her out of my life over this. I am uncomfortable knowing anything about her new relationship and my trust is very low. It makes me jealous to think about them. I really don't like cutting people off, but I just need some assurance and words of wisdom from someone who has been here before to give some insight as to if I can and should cut her out of my life. I can't keep dealing with this, I need to move on, but I've never had to deal with a situation like this before. I really could use someone's two cents worth. Thank you.
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