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Posted by jazbar The first thing you need to do is take care of yourself. You are grieving and we all grieve in different ways...get back to your hobbies and things, take up something new...meet new friends or get reaquanted with your old friends! read a book! get to know "you" once again! Take a long warm bubble bath and absolutely pamper yourself! At these times, grab a pen and paper and record what you are doing and how you feel about yourself and "him"! remember those notes and reread them after a few days...grab that same pen and paper and write him the most nastiest letter you could ever write but never ever send it! put it away in a shoe box! remember how you "feel" after writing these letters also, record those feelings! The only person you "need" is yourself! I was once "there" myself! Do not contact him either...If he calls you, keep a cheerful aspiration in your voice and end the conversation within ten minutes! just act like you have plans and you have no time to talk! If he ask "what are you doing tonight?" say "oh nothing much"...Remember, you wonder what he is doing...do the same! Also, do not tell him you love him...fatal mistake...Your situation is not as bad as you think...I wish I knew now what I told you! I was there and I look back and think how I wish I took this advice where you are at now! I love my ex now more than ever and I wish her very well! I gave up my need for her and things feel into there places!may God bless you! I hoped I helped!
on 12/4/2004, 11:24 pm, in reply to "Suffering needlessly....right?"
Are you human? (I hope so!) You are entitlted to your feelings and you cry, that is progress! You are only human and to say "I've been there is a cliche' !
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