Posted by Rick on 9/20/2006, 2:26 am, in reply to "Re: How Can This Be?" I continue to tell her how I feel about her every time I am with her. I never tire of her asking and every time she asks I just look into her eyes and tell her I will always be there for her and that my love for her is not defined by body parts, but by her heart and her soul. You mentioned that you pushed your boyfriend away. I have thought about this possibility, and decided to bring it up to her. I told her I am worried that she will try to "save" me from this and "help" me by giving me the opportunity to walk away from our relationship. She has never hinted of doing that and my heart would break if she ever did, but I could see that someone who has fears that they may be regarded as less feminine or less attractive may do what you described. I just told her I want her to promise me she will not make that decision for me. I have told her I am in this with her for life. I told her if she ever feels like she should end this "for my own good" I want her to talk to me about those feelings. I promise her that I will always be there that I will prove that I love her and am attracted to her through my devotion and actions every day. I keep encouraging her to think about what SHE wants, not what she thinks might be best for me. I am encouraging her to be self focused and tell me what she needs, not what she thinks I need. If she can just tell me what SHE wants, she will see that I don't need to be spared anything or saved from anything and that I am with here willingly and with all my heart. One good thing is that she has asked me to be there to view the incisions with her for the first time. I think this will help with the issue of feeling unattractive. I hope when it comes time she doesn't change her mind. I asked her before the surgery if she would think about allowing me to see the incisions as soon as she was comfortable doing so. I have a healthcare clinical background and I have seen numerous incisions. I know they have not been on the one I love and that this may make a difference, but I feel it will NEVER change the way I see her. She is my beautiful lady, my best friend, and my hero. Thank you for sharing your perspective. It will help to prepare me for the weeks and months ahead.
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