Posted by Kelly S. on 9/20/2006, 11:30 am, in reply to "How Can This Be?"
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Hi Rick,
I do not know how much information I can give since my Husband and I are fairly new to this also. I was diagnosed with Stage IV in April and went right into chemo since it was already in my liver. This was such a hard time for my husband and I both - we are just now coming out of the fog. It was so important to me to know that he was there for me no matter what I needed - if I needed to cry - if I needed to talk - if I needed to be held - if I needed to be told that he was not going anywhere no matter what happened - if I needed him to come up with some comic relief to help the situation. He has been to every doctors appointment and chemo with me except for 1 which was because he was ill himself. It seems like such a hard thing to do -but I wanted to plan my funeral while I was feeling well just in case things took a turn for the worse and I know it had to be the hardest thing for him to come with me to do but it meant so very much to me to have him do this and I needed him there- he helped us get through it with some comic relief for sure on this day. All I can say is be there for her in any and every way she needs. I will also say that as I see my husband going through this that it is sooo hard for him to deal with and as the months go on I can see him getting drained - it seems like I and the doctors visit have become his life - I have recently gotten him to go out with some friends and had him to make a lunch date with a guy from our church. Make sure to make time for yourself still to rejuvinate so you can be a strength to her and not become drained yourself. Best of Luck and my prayers are with you both!!!
Kelly
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