Posted by phil s-r+5 on 10/2/2006, 8:59 pm, in reply to "How and when to tell the kids" Dan I am so sorry that you are here with the journey you have to face. I have not read the other posts but I am sure they are complete and through.
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Dan;
What I can add is a male perspective to what you are going through. I have been where you are and have had to live through the worse.
Like you wife mine was dx'd in 03 Jan with at stage 4 mets to bones. She died Aug 05 the 22nd.
We have 5 kids now boy-6 girls-8,9,14,16.
It has been hard but it would have been alot harder if we were not honest with them. They were told 2-3x'z a yr that their mother had very short time.
Here is my email so you can send privately if you want and my ph #.
kbbmjlp.sr@accesscomm.ca 306 584 1115
Dan there is alot I can tell you but I will wait for the questions. But right now I have to tell you that if things are happening fast please try to get your wife to do legacy stuff. TO write letters to the kids, suggest favorite meals that she and you like. Write on photos of when and where.
I hope that you have family close, if not ask and demand help.
Get help for yourself as the inner stress is going to build.
Dan you can do nothing but love her and be there for her. Make sure you and the kids are part of her life even if it means missing school. He will not miss anything.
Build memories, go to parks and zoo's watch the sunset.
As for the kids let them know that mommy loves them and is fighting the cancer hard but that she cannot fight it much longer. that she will always love them and watch over them.
Anyway take care be well and breathe.
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