Posted by george on 1/27/2009, 7:05 am, in reply to "help!"
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hi buddy, take a deep breath, i know it's tough when other problems in a relationship are compounded with a health issue.
most important thing is to listen first before suggesting, just let her talk and don't interrupt at first, just say, honey, i'm here right now just to listen to whatever you'd like to talk about, and then ask her what she prefers to do and reassure her that you are still on her side no matter what, that you don't want to fight at all, that you just want to help and be there for her.
she's obviously very frightened, who wouldn't be, and it's imperative that you keep a very calm head and demeanor at all times to help keep the pace (and peace) of things.
when i helped to take care of my mother i'd always ask her first what she thought or preferred, when i took her to medical appts i'd always refer to her first before speaking up with physicians, i'd write questions to ask but ask my mother first if it was ok to ask them.
you will find a good source of suggestions on this site from both caregivers and actual patients. we all put our arms around each other here and offer reassurance and advice. please continue to visit us and talk about whatever you'd like.
george
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