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George put it well - first, yes, just breathe. It's hard, and it really is a life changing event. Just listen first, like he said, and I'd add: do your best (it's hard, financially these days, I know) to be there. Not necessarily for the appointments but to be there for the times when she wants to "forget" about having cancer. Those are, in my opinion, very important, too.