Posted by Ruby... on 8/18/2009, 6:25 pm
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I have been fighting br ca for many years now and though it is not cured I am still managing a near to normal life. My husband of over 10 years has recently grown meaner and unrealistic. Though he outwardly behaves like a normal caring person, he is doing things to me that I never imagined he would. I have noticed that when he makes a meal just for me I don't feel well after I consume it. At times my energy drops more than usual and on more than one ocassion I fall into a heavy sleep for about three hours. I have confronted him and he always denies druging me and becomes extremely angry. I did once discover a crushed pill inside a pancake and then realized he must have put it in. He had some pills for a bad back to decrease inflammation that can cause drowsiness. The pill looked the same.
I have heard that some husbands feel entrapped and frustrated after living with an ill wife of many years. He prefers to live in denial and is too passive to get help. Just today I sent him away. I told him that caregivers need a break. He said he felt like he was abandoning me and would be gone for a couple of days. I said he needed to be gone til Saturday so he could truly rest.
I need your help and advice. I felt so much better today since I ate my own cooking.
I don't know how to make him stop and lots of times I need his help.
Thank you, Ruby
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