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After seeing all of the doctors and listening to everything that they had to tell her, my wife has elected to go straight to surgery. The oncologist, a very nice man who gave up his day off to come into the office for her, explained to her that in the case of a masectomy the choice of when chemotherapy began was really up to her---that it didn't make any real difference---she decided that she wanted the disease gone and out of her body as soon as possible.
Surgery has been scheduled for next Thursday.
My wife really is much stronger than I am.
But she may have asked too much of me in one regard. Her family. In the last 3 weeks I have seen more of her family than I ever saw of them in the previous 10 years. When Wendy was pregnant with our daughter, Wendy's mother began exhibiting all the signs of senile dementia including paranoia. The paranoia was directed at me and another of her son-in-laws. We were accused of doing some truly vile things to her and the unaffected sisters (there are 4 total) believed every word their mother said. The wife of the other man asked me to take all blame to ease the pressure on her husband. Answer: NO!. When their mother was diagnosed (after changing her will to cut my kids out), there was never a word of apology and they still never came around. Now Wendy wants me to let them do whatever they want to help even if I don't need it but because it makes THEM feel better? Give me a break!