Posted by Jacky on 7/7/2011, 10:26 am, in reply to "Re: coping"
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I totally understand your point of view, and I respect it. People who come to these boards come for two reasons, either to give or to obtain support because their lives are touched by cancer. There are different kinds of support, and information is certainly one kind. On the recurrance board you'll find a lot of people willing to tell you their stage 4 experiences, and help you with those questions, but that might not be for you either, it can be a difficult board to visit.
I again go back to what I said before. You have a tough job, and in my opinion, the harder job, and you deserve all the support you can get. Sometimes though, for the reasons you state, it can't be received from certain places. Nevertheless you DO deserve it and I wish you luck in finding it. There are lots resources, and I hope some are available to you. Your wife's treatment center is going to be a great place to start that search. Give them a call 
and don't forget to talk to your own physician.
Don't forget something I know you've learned, since you've lived with cancer for so long. We IS tough, we is. This venue is very safe, and we the survivors have the opportunity to give back here and for some of us, it's the only way we can - don't forget we can always just NOT answer or read if it's difficult, and don't forget, we are here because we want to be. In time, if you hang with us, you may be able to move past that need to protect us as you protect your wife. It is natural and normal for you and your wife to want to protect each other from your own fears, no doubt she holds back from you a bit too, but you both can benefit from safe outlets for that, and we are one. But one of many, so again, good luck in finding your own care.
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