Posted by Michelle on 7/15/2011, 11:51 pm, in reply to "Re: Wise women on this board"
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Mike- I know it is hard to take care of yourself emotionally. The disability issue is a two edged sword. Good, in that your wife won't have to worry about work in her current state; Bad in that her work life is over. I think men are at a extreme disadvantage as caregivers. Traditionally women have assumed that role. I truly believe men want to help but they have no idea what to say or do. I think they also think they will be overwhelmed by your needs and they won't be able to live up to all that you may need. Make it simple for them. Send another email and say something like: Hey I need help. I need( dinners brought to the house, someone to mow the grass,someone I can call if I need to talk, etc.) Small manageable tasks. Its a secret wives have had for years to get husbands to do stuff- your part of the club now. Take care and I will send you positive thoughts. Michelle
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