Posted by Bilbo on September 26, 2009, 20:42:08, in reply to "Re: questions?????"
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I wouldn't necessarily even ask. Just answer her questions about smoking, but also explain to her honestly the reasons you'd rather she didn't start smoking yet if at all.
That's probably all you can really do anyway - if she's determined to smoke and can already get hold of cigarettes, you probably can't actually stop her, so treating her with honesty and respect s about all you can do.
If she's already smoking and addicted, there isn't a great deal you can do, but she may just be curious - kids get curious about stuff all the time. If you tell her you started at 18 and you think that was about the right age, she may accept that a wait a while if she isn't already a smoker.
--Previous Message--en my
: parents hassled me. Its
: not THAT bad of a habit.
: But then again, your
: daughter is 9 years old
: so...so yeah, id just
: ask, she will probably
: say no, but if she is
: truly smoking behind
: your back, its pretty
: easy to catch her
: someday. She will get
: more daring of where she
: smokes, and you will run
: into her eventually
: while shes smoking. Hope
: things work out great.
: keep me updated...
:
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: --Previous Message--
: well, im 18, soon 19,
: and
: i can tell i definitely
: didnt like that my mom
: and step father found
: out i smoked when i was
: like 13 or 14. I got
: grounded from EVERYTHING
: and i didnt want to
: smoke every again since
: my mom and step dad were
: anti smokers (although
: my mom smokes). It was
: really rough i tell ya
: that. But inside, i
: truly wanted to be a
: smoker, i dont know why,
: i just did. so obviously
: parents didnt stop me. i
: just did it behine their
: back outside or
: something. My advice is
: do u care if she smokes?
: thats the first thing
: that matters. If you
: dont care, then no need
: to search her room, but
: if you dont want her to
: smoke, still dont search
: her room. JUST asl. its
: so much better than
: going through HER stuff.
: thats not cool. i mean 9
: is an early age to
: start, but still, its
: rude of the parents to
: search rooms looking for
: cigs to get their kids
: in trouble...thats my
: two sense...
:
: --Previous Message--
: im a 29 yo mother of a 9
: yo daughter. im also a
: smoker i started smoking
: when i was 18. my
: question is how can i
: tell if my daughter is
: smoking my bf thinks she
: is.i have noticed amber
: has been watching me
: smoke lately and she has
: asked me how old i was
: when i started and hoe i
: got smoke to come out of
: my nose. my bf say i
: should search her room.
: any and all comment
: would be appreiciated.
: thx laura
:
:thx for your comments
: robby. i totally agree
: with you about room
: searches. if i come out
: and ask her if shes
: smoking and she says no
: i can accept that but if
: she say yes then thats a
: horse of a different
: color. im not going to
: ask her until ive
: formulated an answer.
: and again thx for your
: comments: laura
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