I really hope that my condition will improve! I'm trying "exposure exercises", the first thing was that I'm not turning on the water (the tap?) when I have to pee ;-) in my boyfriends house. So now I know he didnt die because he heard me pee ;-) - little steps!
I've tried turning on the shower, but this doesnt work because I wont even get the urge when someone is around. When my boyfriend leaves the house for and hour or two, I can go...
About telling people... maybe I will try (close friends first I think). But on a group holiday I couldnt say "hey, I will need my own appartement" - when everyone else will sleep in a group appartement. :/
Good luck to you!