A few years later this same lifter asked me what the chances were of me going back to his area because he was tired of lifting against druggies and driving 200+ miles round trip, plus a hotel room, etc to lift in our meets. My response was simple, "We quit going to your area because we had no local support and no one actually acted like they cared for anything but lifting. We have adopted the same attitude, we don't care where we go as long as we get numbers but at least here (new place) we have people who jump in and help us without us having to ask them to do so." And when he actually asked me if I could weigh him in early because he had to drive for 3 hours what do you think my response was? Everyone is my good old buddy while they are wanting a favor. Friendships and favors work both ways in life.
You see, lifters don't have to help us. They pay to lift, that's it. But when it comes time for us to book meets the following year(s) where do you think we are going to go if the numbers are close but one location has lots of local support, friends helping out, going to eat, visit, etc or the other location where the lifters lift and leave and no-one helps do anything in any way. Easy choice for us.
People do not have to help in anyway at meets no more than people have to open doors for others, help people in need, offer to help someone change a tire, help an elderly person, etc. But good people should never be asked to help others, it comes naturally. Thank goodness my parents taught me this and I have taught my kids this important aspect in life. Kids learn from the actions of their parents. Like they always say, "Actions speak much louder than mere words."