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Posted by Rob
on 3/30/2006, 2:34 am
OK, i was in a relationship with this girl. She's from Norway, i'm from Mexico, she's 19, i'm 25. She came here about 6 months ago, and she was gonna stay 8 months.
We were so inlove with each other! So really inlove with each other, and it was all perfect, all nice and cool. We had some issues, mostly about insecurities of mine and hers. She is one of the most selfconcious persons i've ever met! And well, i'm not exactly all that secure about myself. But things were super fine.
Well, about a month and a half ago, we had a pretty nasty fight, which i started, and i said a lot of stupid stuff to her (not mean, but plain stupid), and she just didn't wanna see me for a while. I gave her some space, told her that i was sorry and hoped she could take me back... The thing is that i was gonna go through some medical proceedure (brain surgery), and yeah, i was doing really bad: my girl was super mad at me and the docs didn't give me much hope about it. So, well, i ended up calling her and telling her about everything. She said that she was gonna be there by my side, but as a friend. I asked her if it was a break up, and she said yes. She said that she still loved me, but she couldn't trust me after that fight we had. Well, at first i accepted the break-up, but then when she told me she still loved me, i saw the _ and i had to at least try to get her back! so.. kinda started to take things slowly. We met only a couple times the next week, and on that wednesday i received my MRI results, and turned out i needed surgery. It was gonna be performed on saturday morning. She was going out for the weekend with one of her friends. I didn't wanna tell her about the surgery because i didn't want her to miss the weekend with her friend, but then when she asked me about the results, she was insisting and insisting about me telling her, so i ended up telling her. She of course didn't go on that weekend. I felt so guilty about it, but well... Surgery didn't happened, cuz the first diagnosis was wrong, but then i spend the weekend with her, and she looked pretty ok with it. The next week, i went through some more tests, and things between me and her were looking up... until that sunday. I dunno what got into her, but she said she was sick and tired of me, and that she didn't wanna see me. I kinda got mad because of that, she just got mad over nothing and tossed to the toilet what we had! So i thought of just giving her space, just so she could think it over and maybe give me a chance... Anyway, from the get-go, we always talked about being best friends, no matter what happened, no matter if we broke up or whatever.
She called me yesterday. 3 weeks after she went off on me over nothing. She wanted to give me back some stuff i left at her place. She also said she was goin back to Norway this friday (2 months earlier of her actual return!), and that she needed to give me that stuff back. We met today, and she just thanked me for all that we went through... i asked her what was gonna happen between us, but she said that she didn't know. She doesn't know if we still can be friends or what... she's pretty mad about that fight we had, and mad because of that weekend.
So.. the thing is... i don't want her back as my girlfriend, but i want her back as my friend! Things between us are pretty damaged, but... how possible is it to become friends again? Need advise!
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