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Posted by Eric That being said... your really have to find out on your own. Despite whatever we say, your likely to go with your feelings over what we or your own common sense is telling you. And that's fine. We probably all do that more often than we like to admit. So if you feel you must... wait to see him in person and ask him if wants to get back together with you. You already understand what the answer is likely to be at this point. Maybe you just have to go through that so that you can get to the point where you will begin to let things go. Or maybe you can at least get a little more insight into what he was thinking when he broke up with you originally. Of course if he says "yes, let's get back together", then you have an entirely differnt problem on your hands. This guy already knows that he can treat you quite badly... blow you off with out giving you a reason etc. So, because he can get away with something like that... than he probably won't respect you very much if he does take you back. And let me tell you... if a guy dosn't respect you... he sure as hell is not going to love you. And calling him constantly will likely lead to him respecting you even less. So anyway, you just may be postponing the inevitable if you get back together with him. But that's OK to... as long as you eventually learn from the experience. And one last thing. I know this all just sucks... that it really, really hurts. I don't want to minimize anything that you are feeling. If you can get to the point where you can just accept the situation and accept the feelings of profound sadness and loss then things will start to get better from that point. But you're not there yet... nobody should expect you to be there yet. I really do get the impression that you are doing the best you can given what you feel and what you know at the moment. So hang in there.
on 4/5/2006, 10:41 pm, in reply to "Coming home end of month.."
Look Laura... just because Jack and I are involved the field (clinical psychology/cognitive science etc) that does not necessarily mean that we have any great insight into anything. But we do know guys... because we are guys! And, it looks like we agree that all the signs here are bad... really, really bad. Guys that are interested in even remotely having any kind of relationship with a girl just don't act like your ex is acting.
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