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Posted by Jack on 6/4/2006, 12:32 am, in reply to "16 month relationship done" For saving the friendship: I recommend distance. If she'll speak to you (or stand within hearing range) apologize and tell her how you think it would be cool if you could be friends. Tell her you want things to be cool and that you want her opinion on future relationship issues you may have. Tell her that it would be too difficult to be "just" friends because you just care too persoanally for her. Then tell her that you think space might be the only solution (The one chick in high school who really tore my heart out of my chest and stomped the shit out of it, after 8 years I still can't be in the same room with her, but we talk online once a week and I'm fine). Talk to her online. If you're a christian, then remember that God's plan and your plan might be different. If you're an atheist, then just go to plan B. My advice: Some of the hair of the dog that bit you! Find another girl to hang out with...Find a couple of them and just get a feel for what's out there. You don't even have to be really into the girls (but please don't tell them you love them unless you feel it. That's just rude...player). Its just a sort of experiment: to get you comfortable talking with different girls and being in a relationship without being too smothering, and to help you develop your game. Believe it or not, you will likely realize that while your ex is possibly the greatest girl you'll ever date, she's not the greatest girl for you to date. People meet their soulmates all the time and it doesn't work out...then they meet their next soulmate. That's the way it works. Let me know how it turns out.
Having an ex-friend turned girlfriend turned gal friend is the most awesome thing you can have in your toolbox of relational information. Who better to offer you relationship advice than someone who was your friend, who went out with you for a year, then realized how much she hates you (wait that was my ex, not yours)?
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