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Posted by Jack on 7/9/2006, 1:05 pm, in reply to "Falling for my friend" Dude, if she lets you touch her, and is cool with it, then obviously she is into you like more than a friend. I've had LOTS of friends who were girls, and an occasional hug was about all the contact we made, and even then some girls felt uncomfortable with that. I think she likes you. Plus hips and hair are very sexually suggestive places to touch a girl. I'm sure it turns you on to do it, and it probably does the same for her, make a move already. Tell her you are shy, and that you don't take hints very well, but that you like her in a romantic way, and was wondering if she felt the same way. There are two possibilities: She is attracted to you and thinks of you as being safe, and flirts with you as a way of building her self-confidence and ability to flirt effectively. Or she is in to you, too, and wants you to ask her out. Along the first line of reasoning, inter-office flirting can be a fun and safe way to build up confidence because in many cases (my job in VA) there are policies against dating co-workers. However, not every company has that rule. There are a lot of other things you said that make me think she likes you as well: If other people are noticing the chemistry, and bring it to your attention, then maybe they are seeing something you are not. Also, if it was just flirting, she would not have a problem saying something. You saying that she is just your friend might be breaking her heart, or maybe she's embarassed that you are not noticing how much she wants to be with you... If you are going to make a move, make a small one, but make it soon. Maybe ask if she wants to hang out on a friday night after work, go to a movie and bring the subject of going out up while in line to get tickets (at the very latest) Do not wait until the end of the date! If it were me, I'd chicken out. Pressure will be building constantly and it will get worse and worse until you say something. It doesn't have to be eloquent. I'm sure if you squeeked out: "I really like you" in between tears, that you would win her heart if not wow her mind. As an aside, I remember the first girl I had a crush on...I was so scared to tell her, that I chickened out three times before mking a vow not to eat until I told her...I managed on a friday after school and almost passed out due to a combination of nerves and hunger! But it gets easier each time. Good luck, my firend! Tell us what she says and how it went.
You just painted a perfect picture of a shy/less-attractive girl flirting with a guy who she really likes.
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