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Posted by nina on 5/5/2005, 2:36 am
I started dating a guy from my graduate school about 7 months ago and I thought things were going well until in February he mentioned he needed space. After mentioning that I would break up, we decided to continue. His request for space made me scared and afterwards every time we would get in arguments I would say I don't want to be with you or why are we continuing this...etc. And I feel terrible about that but that was my defense mechanism. So anyway, he broke up with me after we got into an argument. He said that he is not ready for a relationship and he wants some time alone. He wants to be just friends. Regardless, before our summer break began I saw him and his last words were "if I dont see you have a good summer" which I took it that he would never call me until the new school year began. But then he called the next day to say that "i have your coat" which has been there for a long time (he said I should come and get it..I didn't...just told him to keep it till after our class resumes) and also to tell me to "call him when I get my grade..he wants to know how I did"...well this was all monday. I called him wednesday night to let him know about my grade. I decided early on to keep the conversation short and to be the one who ends it first and I did. at the end I just said have a good summer ...so basically I made it sound as if I dont expect or want him to call me back but then his response was "talk to you later" in a "is it ok" sort of way....and I just said yes and we said bye...His attempts at keeping in contact to me is contradictory to his wish to break up with me...It is utterly confusing. I hate analyzing all of this but its hard when he does all this and I still care for him so much. Why would he want to "talk later" or want to know about my grades...I dont understand. I greatly appreciate any advice because just understanding the situation will help me get through it.
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