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Posted by Gergory on 6/5/2005, 11:13 am I'm a 26 year old man. At the present, I'm just working at a fast food resturant. There is a person who works there with me who, over that past year, i've grown to love as a friend. she's older then i am, and dating/marriage are out of the question with her, but I still think she is such a wonderful person and have always desired to be her close friend. And I know she does like me too. But a month ago a new worker has been employed who has taken a liking to her also (yet he has a girl friend and a kid supposedly already, so he's not interested in marrying her either). Over the past few weeks he's been all over her, and i know she enjoys being around him. Now I've been struggling a lot with nxiety over this, and it's been making be miserable. Last night I tried to get rid of this jealousy by trying to convince myself that i had no But this new worker has a better personality then I do. He's very friendly and talkative, I'd appreciate most of all if those people who are normally in happy/friendly moods and likes to have a ton of fun would reply to this,, ONLY because this friend of mine is like that and I'm trying to see this situation through her eyes and how she's seeing me now that (and in comparison with) this other new friend of hers works with us. And please be completely honest with your replies. Even if what you says makes me feel worse, i need to look at this situation without "rose-colored glasses" and learn from this experience about how people REALLY are and how they view me. I can't live in my own little
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reason to be jealous or anxious. I kept telling myself things like "even if she starts liking him a
ton, that doesn't mean she'll like you any less". For awhile i had convinced myself and it
seemed that i was on the road to overcoming my bad emotion. If I could be sure that he's not hindering me from building my friendship up with her, I could deal with this. The idea of him being better friends with her than I am is NOT what is bothering me. Again, last night i was totally at peace with this thought: "As long as he's not HOLDING ME BACK in my relationship with her, then i don't mind him being friends with her".
always having something to say or some cool conversation to start. I on the other hand am a
lot more serious and really struggle to find things to talk about. So does his new friendship with my friend hurt my relationship with her at all by making me look bad? In your experience, does being with an extremely fun person make you get bored (NOT hate or dislike, but just bored with) of people who aren't at that level of "coolness"? I'm kinda thinking in terms of, say, thinking a certain game is really fun but then finding one that is better; from my experience, i usually don't enjoy the old one anymore now that i've found better. So let me put it this way: do i have good reason to wish he'd just leave and work somewhere else??
world, thinking I'm everyones best friend, not "reading the signs". Like that, how would i
ever truly understand other people and grow in relational-maturity. So PLEASE don't give any
replies just to "cheer me up". THANKS SO VERY MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!
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