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Re: How do I help my sons through this

Posted by Alvita on 8/12/2012, 9:04 pm, in reply to "How do I help my sons through this"
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Kim,

So sorry for you diag.

My advise is for YOU to stay possitive. Right now, all you know is you have tested possitive for bc. It may not be as bad as you think. It is definitely NOT a death sentence. Medicine has come soooo far.

I was told on a Friday and didn't go back to the dr until Tuesday - so I had the entire weekend to have panic attacks and worry like crazy. I did't tell anyone but my sister (who lost it with me) and my husband - who said for me to calm down and wait on all of the facts. He was right, I was a stage IIA (which means my tumor was kind of large, but there was no node involvement or evidence of spreading anywhere). I had a lumpectomy & I have to have 4 treatments of chemo - only as a precaution - to reduce the chance of reoccurrence. My situation turned out to not be so bad.

Your children feed off of you. They are going to be okay if you handle it okay. I have 2 grown sons (both in college & living @ home), 2 foster children and an 11 year-old niece that I take care of. My goal is to always let them see me doing & looking okay. I noticed after my hair came out from the chemo, my niece was looking at me with concern. I looked at her & said "Do you like my bald head? It's a good thing I'm cute." She laughed and my head does not bother her anymore.

After saying all of that, what I'm really trying to say is..stay possitive. Wait until you get all of the facts. Develop a plan with your onc and you will feel much better.

You are going to be fine. All of us are going to be fine. We are SUVIVORS in this support group.

Prayers are with you!