http://www.feliway.com

It comes in a spray or a diffuser (virtually no smell to humans), and it works to calm and comfort.

**we do not hate you!!!**

thank you for coming here to ask for advice, and thank you for caring for this kitty. Your safety is most important, and squirting water is a reasonable tactic as a quick, harmless defense without traumatizing the kitty or further stressing or scaring her