"First-a rule of Italian driving - what's-a behind me is not important".
It happened, things are not so bad as they could have been, no further action for me, so (at least in our family) the trauma goes away quickly.
Her husband, my son, got his armored vehicle blown up twice in Iraq, watched an RPG round come through his windshield that turned out to be a dud, and had two friends killed by snipers ... and he's well over that now. He's like me - we don't internalize ANYTHING, we talk it out until we're done. As you guys well know ..!!!