Re read my post Steph, I never advocated ("heat up") for anything. As I age I am coming to realize that sorting people into groups that are good and bad does nothing. As Gandhi would say "an eye for an eye just makes the whole world blind".

After being raised Christian and studying different religions and mindsets the go to thing I am using now to get well comes from a Moody Blues song titled The Balance and its working great! (gender change is mine)

"Upon this she saw that when she was of anger or knew hurt or felt fear,
It was because she was not understanding,
And she learned, compassion.

And with her eye of compassion.
She saw her enemies like unto herself,
And she learned love.
Then, she was answered".

https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/moodyblues/thebalance.html