Well, guilty at charge, I have not been 100% with anything these days and I have to stop the bad habit. I have been receiving bad news these past few weeks and I have turned to food for comfort to deal with these series of events.
I think all of you know that my dear friend from NJ opened his house for me to stay a few years ago so I can focus on SS while away from my family and all temptation. Well, he's been traveling immensely and with my mom aging and bored at home it wasn't convenient for me to try my temporary escape for a jump start.
Well, about 4 weeks ago my friend was in a terrible car accident coming back from a trip. His friend who was on the passenger's side passed away, his car totaled. It was a hit and run and he's been hospitalized since. He had 26 broken bones on his body to include a broken leg, shoulder and breast bone. He had some procedures done to include a full hip replacenment surgery. His update as of now: He'll be discharged from the hospital Friday and transferred to a rehab where he'll be there for approximately 6-8 weeks depending on his improvements for walking and such.
Two weeks ago, my sister had a tumor removed from her breast and it was taken to be tested to make sure it wasn't serious. It turns out she has breast cancer and is having another surgery on the 20th of this month. She's been with ups and downs and we are all supportive and also feeling her pain. With the technology and advance medication now we are hopeful she will be fine!
My mom has finally agreed to give the senior center a chance. She loves it! The shuttle picks her up at 8:30 and drops her off by 3p Mon-Fri so she's no longer bored.
With all that being said, the good news is I am visiting my friend in NJ the weekend after thanksgiving and only flying one way. I am taking my Cambridge with me. Since he'll be in the rehab, there's no pressure of us having to go out to eat and I'll just drink my shake(s) before and after I visit. I am staying at his house and relieving the dog sitter and should be able to get a jump start like I did before. Since I don't have a return flight yet, I am planning to at least stay 2 weeks, but definitely as long as I am there I'd like to SS as much as possible and it should be a breeze by the time I get back just before Christmas. At least that's the plan.
Well, that's enough venting for now. Please know that I am thinking of all of you and I admire each and everyone's determination to always try and not quit.
Sonali! I am so sorry to hear all this. Your poor friend. How devastating to lose his friend, and to also have sustained such extensive injuries. I hope he has a full recovery.
And your sister...oh my. We've been through a 2 year struggle with my daughter's cancer and my heart goes out to her and to your family. But you are right. She will likely get through this and be fine. I marvel at all my daughter went through and at times I felt discouraged, but for the most part we felt confident she would be ok. After multiple surgeries and complications and 35 rounds of radiation, all tests show that she is cancer free. I wish your sister the very best outcome for her upcoming surgery.
It can be hard to put yourself as a priority when others around you are struggling, but as you've shown, you know that your personal health goals are separate from all these challenges and are important too. I am so glad to hear that you are taking this and turning it in to something mutually beneficial to both you and your friend. It says a lot about a person who can deal with these challenges and still find a positive thread to turn in to something good. Very inspiring.
I was sorry to hear about the misfortunes of the dear ones closest to you.
However, this stay in New Jersey may be just what you need and a blessing in disguise.
That's how it started with me——tragedy turned into opportunity. After my husband's stroke in June, I cleaned out the entire kitchen cabinets of ALL food and donated all of it to a local church food bank. Since then, I have been as good as I can be (with some slips here and there).
Try it! You might be on your way to what you have always wanted. You can't change the past, but you can definitely create the future. Good luck, Sonali
Don't beat yourself up for not being 100%. It's super hard to be 100% even under the best circumstances.
I relate to your turning to food to relieve some of your stress with the bad news.
What sad news that your friend was in a horrific car accident!
I am sorry your sister has breast cancer but very happy for her that it was caught. Now she has a fighting chance Your friend is lucky that you are willing to come and stay at his home to watch over things and pet sit for him. And this is your golden opportunity to get back on SS 100%.
Happy Thanksgiving and Best Wishes to you, your family, and your friend.