I have also lived the problem for over 50 years. It started when I was sent away to boarding school at the age of seven. Again it has totally spoilt my social life and I am still single. Never having to share your bedroom and bathroom makes the problem easier.May not help the sex but we can't be too greedy. Thank goodness now for the en-suite bedrooms in hotels !!

Now I have leukemia and hospital stays are a real challenge. At least I can blame the chemo when the nurse asks the dreaded question in the morning!!"Trafalgar, have you opened those bowels??" However, I am also on anti depressants which help boost my serotonin levels. I also take 5HTP tablets which is converted in extra serotonin. This certainly has helped my state of mind and lessens the toilet anxiety. A happy mind helps a happy body evacuate. The other trick is to take every night a colon cleanser. This is a powder of pure roughage which expands when taken with water at bedtime.It is like having Dyno Rod at work through the night. Therefore I am forced on rising to evacuate or all hell will break out later !! Also I have a really empty bowel during the day. That really is mind over matter. You have to be one step ahead of the problem.