Dear Dave, please read my latest post (response after HI). Living alone would not be the solution to your problem. Yes it will make the bowel thing more comfortable, but if you have someone to love you, have your own kids etc, then after a while your life becomes routine and the focus on the bowel thing won't be so bad. When I first got married I thought, how in the hell am I going to live with this situation? But after time, things kind of get more comfortable. I live in a two storey house with 3 toilets, and I often go when my husband goes to work (he leaves before me) or when he falls asleep on the couch at night. When we go on holidays I often hire a two bedroom apartment with 2 bathrooms, and check the layout of the room. Yes it's a tiring thing to do to have to wait for someone else to fall asleep or go to work, but I'm going to try Cognitive Behaviour therapy techniques soon to combat this, as I don't think it's normal for my bowels to control my life. Another thing that helps is drinking 8 glasses of water a day, eating lots of fibre, fruit and veges, and having a tablespoon of psyllium husks in the morning with your cereal or drink, this advise given to me by a bowel specialist after I saw her for fissures. I tried this once and it helps a lot more than not doing anything at all. Also I've heard that having some freshly squeezed lemon juice mixed together with some warm water helps but this doesn't do it for me, it might work for you though. Good luck