well,my personal thought is, trusting your own body!!! really really trusting it because, once we start comparing how others' bowels work ,in particular, we distrust our own gut out of desire to function like them!!! does that make sense?? Just because other people poo with the door open, (which is a lack of respect for others i believe,)poo at school,poo loud,poo easily,poo 3 times a day, does not give it the bench mark for what is normal or acceptable.
I am learning to trust my bowel function and if i go small i go small, if i dont go today i dont go today, i accept fully of who i am, without comparing my bowels to other's and it takes the emotional pressure off of me which is great!!!