I'm 23/f, and have suffered with this problem for as long as i can remember. i have never been able to move my bowels in public restrooms, at school, in the dorms, at friends homes etc. I have always just suffered and been in the habit of holding back until i am home to my nice private toilet.

But now i have a serious problem - I am in a serious relationship and I absolutely cannot move my bowels anywhere near him! It gives me horrible anxiety - I wasn't really able to enjoy the last weekend trip we went on because i was so distracted from not being able to go for 3 days! The worst is when I'm at his house and the urge is bad... i just get irritable and awful to be around because its hard for me to be a nice person when i'm so miserable from trying to hold it in. i really don't want this to affect my relationship in a negative way anymore i'm tired of having to rush home to poop


does anyone in a similar situation have any helpful advice?