It's been a while since I posted and things for me still haven't changed. But just knowing that other people suffer in the same way as me has really helped and now I don't think about it so much, and it has helped calm my bowel. Weird I know.
It frequently enters my psyche when I am in a stall that people are right next to me....without that dividing piece of thin board I would be able to see the person sitting there and they, me, as well as hearing sounds! Euuugh (shudders). On reviewing history of the Romans, it is worth noting that they would sit side by side, chatting etc in a communal affair whilst dealing with their ablutions......we haven't come very far, have we?
Glad people are still finding this site and that it's helping so many others like me. Thank u Baz.