thank you for your post. sorry to hear how long you've suffered with this condition but glad you found the site. ... and also sorry to hear that you're dealing with the knock on problem of hemorrhoids... another cause of pain which is seldom talked about or allowed to be talked about without people getting dumb about it.
...and here i have to confess that i posted a message a couple of years back asking if hemorrhoids were a problem for any shy bowel sufferers reading the message board. looking back...my message was at best jocular, and at worst insensitive... so i apologise for that...'life teaches' as they say in spanish.
anyway michelle, i hope the surgery goes well.