Recently came across this site by chance after many years of feeling trapped with this problem. My social anxiety dominates EVERY aspect of my life - haven't had sex in 5 years I am CONSTANTLY worried about what people think of me and I really think shy bowel is a big part of my problem. It is a shame that any of us have to suffer but it is very comforting to know that we aren't alone with it.
Have booked some counselling sessions for my social anxiety, will definitely talk to them about shy bowel and see if there is anything I can do to make it easier. Will update if anyone is interested.
Thanks guys and good luck to you all