yeah, i'm starting to realise that social anxiety is a feeling of being under threat in social situations. it doesn't matter if you're the life and soul of the party or can make people laugh til the they pee themselves. what matters is whether your behaviour is coming from a place of fear. that's my take on it anyway.

these two books are recommended by someone who dealt with their social anxiety well. haven't read them myself... yet.

wish i'd read them twenty years ago and acted on this stuff then. (his website: http://www.sawest.org )


Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness: A self-help guide using cognitive behavioural
techniques (2009) by Gillian Butler. ISBN: 1849010005. Also comes as a three part
course/workbook set (2007). ISBN: 1845295714, 1845295722, 1845295730.

The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, step-by-step techniques for
overcoming your fear (2008) by Martin M. Antony and Richard P. Swinson. ISBN:
1572245530.