You said you've had shy bladder and bowel for as long as you can remember, and you're fifteen. Wow. Do you remember a time not having these conditions?
I guess i should put up guidelines for newcomers to messageboards, but in the meantime, it's good you didn't give out your email address, be savvy and remember that people are not always who they seem to be on the internet. But don't get too paranoid.
So, how have you managed this far living with these twin afflictions? Or does it just feel normal?