it seems there is not much hope. I can understand him wanting to see his kids graduate and grow up.

I also have dogs (well only one now) I have taken three up to Obedience Champion but I have always had cats as well. I am wondering if you took a long feather wand on an extra large stick if it would distract her. Also have you tried the Feliway it is helping my daughter's new cat who was also rather "fierce".